With the inauguration tomorrow, I have no doubt the Rick Warren questions will begin again: Obama picked who to speak and give the invocation?
Hang on a second. I’d urge our next president’s supporters to let him take office before they unleash their anger.
In my office last month, I overheard a woman telling a co-worker about this “homophobic evangelical” (Rick Warren) set to speak at the inauguration. She went on: “I feel like saying I want my money back,” which I took to mean that she is fed up with the Obama presidency before it even begins.
We, the American public, were treated to a presidential election this year that featured, I believe, two basically decent, honest men. Both may have changed their views on certain issues when pragmatism dictated, as only befits career politicians, but on this issue each was clear: One believes that any two people who love each other should be allowed to get married, and one does not. In a historically murky issue, that clear distinction stands out.
So why did the one in favor of gay rights choose Warren, a man who has actively campaigned to squelch the legality of gay marriage in California, to bless the ceremony that will launch him into one of the most powerful leadership positions in the world? Some might say Barack Obama is just an opportunist—a consummate politician who wooed a majority of this nation’s voters with the promise of change. But now, when he’s so close to taking the reins, he’s backing away from the bold ideals that rallied his supporters, and he’s settling into a pragmatic position—one in which he can trade the interests of some groups that supported him to satisfy the desires of others. “I want my money back,” they say.
But there’s a chance that the choice of Rick Warren says something that’s far more positive. It’s just a chance, to be sure, because as Hilary Clinton, Sarah Palin and even Vice President-elect Joe Biden pointed out, Obama doesn’t have executive experience, and how he’ll lead is anyone’s guess. It could be, however, that Obama is living up to that guiding principle held so dear during the campaign—the promise of a seat at the table for everyone with an open mind. Instead of conspicuously excluding everyone who stands for principles he doesn’t agree with, Mr. Obama has chosen to share one of the most important days of his presidency—and arguably his life—with someone who flat out disagrees with him. In effect, he’s opening the door to discourse with this man. Warren has shown, by hosting Obama several times at his church, that he’s willing to listen and start a dialogue on values in this country.
What did Cesar Chavez say about convincing people of your position? Talk to one person, and then another person, and then another person. It seems only logical to start with those people who disagree with you but are willing to listen, rather than just spouting off to like-minded associates.
I know what my sister would say to all this: Nice try, John, but that’s a priviledged position you sit in, away from the fray. And on some level, she’s right. I can marry the person I love, a choice she doesn’t have in Ohio where we grew up, or even in California where I live now. And I’ll probably make more money and enjoy more freedom over the course of my lifetime than her or our cousin, whose father is Jamaican, because I’m a white male. Fair enough, I’d say.
I am not affirming Rick Warren’s views. Anyone who knows me would assert that there’s little he and I would agree on. But I believe that if we let anger born of past wrongs—as egregious as they may have been—stymie all communication, we’ll thwart any possibility for progress on the issue of whether two people, any two people, can make the public statement that we call marriage and enjoy all its benefits.
My sister has become, in her own way, a quiet activist—one who I think realizes that bringing about change requires more than just venting to those who agree with her. She knows that to make any important difference, the argument for gay rights or environmental conservation or social justice will have to be put to those who see the issue from a different angle.
In that same vein, I believe the choice of Rick Warren was calculated. Obama knows that in order to represent the rights of the gay community, he’s going to have to lay out a convincing argument. Instead of making this a gay vs. straight debate, he just might be saying, “We’re all people—now let’s sit down and work this out.”
Bigger than Mr. Warren himself, the choice speaks to all those who agree with Mr. Warren on this issue. Most of these people didn’t vote for Obama, and choosing Warren might quell some of the anger that crops up so quickly over the myriad issues on which they disagree with our next president.
Bigger still, perhaps the Mahmoud Ahmadinejads, the Kim Jong-Ils and even the Osama Bin Ladens of the world might see an America that stands by the principles on which it was founded—not necessarily an America that’s sympathetic to their demands, but a country with the belief that discussion might be salve to the wounds that once bred the hate and animosity leading to such destruction in world in the past decade.
What I worry about with the vehement reaction to Warren’s selection for an admittedly prominent position is that that attitude is only one step away from the cronyism that’s beset our nation in the past eight years. Saying you’re not welcome if you don’t agree with us is the same philosophy that has guided the current administration to gird all forums for discussion so tightly.
Obama’s done nothing more than offer this man a chance to speak. In Bill Clinton’s first term, he caved to pressure and signed the famous “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy concerning gays in the military. In Obama’s defense, there’s been no such shift, no backing down on campaign promises yet—until tomorrow, he is still just the president-elect. In the end, he may turn his back on the gay community altogether in favor of reforms that are more apt to get him re-elected or build his legacy.
But there’s another possibility. Perhaps Obama espouses the same hope I do—that words, not wars, whether cultural or military—will solve problems. It’s that hope that led another former president to pen the words for his own inaugural address that Obama paraphrased during his acceptance speech. “We are not enemies, but friends…Though passion may have strained, it must not break our bonds of affection.” If that passion is allowed to reach a fever pitch, absent the mitigating power of discussion, its manifestation—perhaps in renewed hatred toward the gay and lesbian community—can only be destructive to the advancement of the cause.
Inevitably, the cynics among us—and within us—will see this choice as evidence that the change in politics Obama promised was nothing but a mirage, and, mandate in tow, he’s off to do as he pleases. He’ll just be more of the same.
But in fact, if we look closely, he’s doing the one thing that so many in this country have yearned for—he’s listening.